I am writing this because ALI ( READ ALIS FIRST MODELING EXPERIENCE!) has constantly been nagging me to and I have read the beautiful comments from her story.
Ali is one of my best friends. She is 19 and single. I am 25 and married with 2 kids. I am like a big sister to her. She always comes to me with her problems and likes to talk about various happenings in her life. Girls, you know how great it is to have another girl to confide in. We all have our down days and sometimes just need someone to talk to. This is how we are.
Not long ago Ali came to me saying she picked up this flyer, from a collectible show, saying this guy wanted some models for his portfolio. I told her to be careful, but it could be worth a call. Well she called and left messages, but did not get a immediate response. I said it was probably just as well. After we gave up, she got a calling setting a time for an interview. She said that she was having the interview in a fancy restaurant and he was paying the bill! My response was GO FOR IT! Worse thing would be a free meal.
I was anxious to learn how this interview came out. She went in nervous and suspicious. She came out EXCITED! I do not mean excited from getting a job. I mean excited, aroused, turned on, well, girls you probably know what I mean. Take your most exciting personal experience and increase it by 10!!. She talked about this interview as if she was was on a date, but that she was more turned on then she was on most dates! I found this extremely bizarre, but this was nothing compared to her later experiences!!!
A few weeks later, she called and said she was going to the photo session. I said be careful and of course she knew what I meant. Yet, she was again nervous. I mean really nervous like when you go on a date for the first time with a guy you always wanted to date, but were afraid to ask. BUT SHE WAS MORE NERVOUS THAN THAT! Girls, you have all experience FIRST DATE JITTERS. Ali was a wreck and I had to calm her down. I said this is only a photo session.
SHE SAID NO, THIS IS NOT JUST A PHOTO SESSION!
Ali was right. This was not just a photo session! She came back absolutely BEAMING!
She never really got into detail as to what really happened! I could talk to her about her problems. I could talk to her about her boyfriend and get a smile. Yet when I talked to her about her photo session she absolutely LIT - UP! I have never seen anything like it. What exactly could happen to make her LIGHT-UP? I mean mention this photo session and she became excited and bubbly. I have never seen any girls react this way to a non-event. I know for a fact I HAVE NEVER FELT THIS WAY! OH I have had many happy events - my first dates, my wedding, my kids. Yes, I have had a great many happy experiences, but I have never had a BEAMING- BUBBLY happiness I have seen on ALIS face. What exactly happened on a mere photo session?
Then Ali asked me to come with her on a outside photo session! She wanted me to join her. She said she needed me for support. She said I would never forget the the experience! SHE SAID THIS WITH A SMILE THAT I KNEW WAS MORE THAN JUST A REQUEST!!!
I was 25. I was married. I had kids. Oh I still had a good figure, but a more mature figure. I knew if I went it could change things forever. I could see from Alis beaming, that this was more than just a photo session. I knew I had to be careful!!
I was perplexed. Inside I wanted to go for the excitement. I also knew there could be pitfalls that could change my marriage. Few people knew this, but reality was, I did not have much of a marriage. I had been married 5 years and had two kids. The excitement was gone. There was no passion. Life was just routine. My husband had not been with me in months. He had his work and was constantly on the job. Whether he was at work or home - HE WAS CONSTANTLY ON THE JOB! Girls, if you are married with kids, I am sure you know what I mean. We seldom went out and when we did, there was no excitement. We were comfortable and had what we needed and the kids had what they needed, but is that what life is about? WHAT I NEEDED WAS SOME PASSION! I NEEDED COMFORT! I REALLY NEEDED SOMETHING TO CHANGE!
Now I had a chance to do something exciting, but I knew in this stage of life - I COULD EASILY DO SOMETHING I MIGHT REGRET FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!?!
Ali kept begging me to go with her. I kept trying to convince myself of the dangers. For weeks I kept putting her off, but still was intrigued with the excitement. Yet, with each passing day, my life had no signs of improving and I could see the definite signs of a dying marriage. In todays society, a marriage can not last without passion. There has to be something and my marriage was quickly loosing it. If things did not change soon, I knew what was coming! When your marriage is down to a flicker of light, something has to be done! I finally convinced myself to go with Ali and see WHAT CAUSED HER BEAMING? I knew deep down my marriage would never be the same after I went, but it was headed south anyway, so WHY NOT!
I WAS RIGHT! MY MARRIAGE WAS NEVER THE SAME AFTER I CAME BACK!
I returned BEAMING!! I went with a flicker of passion. I CAME BACK WITH ROARING PASSION! MY HUSBAND NEVER KNEW WHAT HIT HIM, BUT HE NOW GOES TO WORK WITH A SMILE!!! HE has even come home early. No longer is life hum drum. There is a roaring passion, even deeper than when we first got married. I had my flame of passion rekindled from this one photo session that has brought new life and meaning into a dying marriage! MY HUSBAND HAS EVEN BROUGHT FLOWERS AND CANDY HOME! He has never done that before. I, of course, had never acted as I do now with as much passion and conviction as I have learned to demonstrate.
YES, my husband has often wondered what happened that day, BUT HE WAS ALSO SMART ENOUGH NOT TO QUESTION THAT WHICH PUT EXTREME EXCITEMENT BACK INTO HIS LIFE!!!