I am a fairly average guy in my thirties, about 6 feet tall, 180 lbs. The only things that distinguish me are that I am fairly well off financially, am considered by many women to be very good looking, and I have a clinical fear of intimacy that has totally screwed up my sexual relationships with women. I had no problem with performance the few times that I got past my intimacy issue, but the only women I have fucked have been prostitutes or true sluts, and I never had any interest in fucking them again, or -- obviously - a relationship.
I finally met someone through an outdoor adventure club that I felt differently about than any other woman, and who made me repeatedly curse my intimacy issues. Her name is Jill.
Jill is about forty (probably about five years older than I am) and has recently gone through a fairly contentious divorce. I first noticed her for several reasons: For a little woman (probably only about 5 feet tall and less than 100 pounds) she is able to hold her own in any outdoor activity, whether it be kayaking, rock climbing, rafting, whatever, and handles all equipment herself without asking for help. Her ass and thighs are what virtually any man would consider ideal (she has tiny tits, no problem for me). And, although her face is certainly not movie star beautiful, it is really cute. Perhaps most intriguing of all is that she has a mysterious look that is very hard to describe; I guess that the word that I am familiar with that is the closest to describing her look is "sultry."
Anyway, Jill and I got to know each other fairly well through the club and club-related activities. Jill also liked to host parties, and I went to several at her house where I met her fairly large cadre of female friends, only one of whom was in the adventure club. Her house, which she got in the divorce (although I also got the impression Jill made good money in her job as some sort of a finance director) is very nice, and in a beautiful suburb next to the suburb that I live in. Her female friends all seem to be happily married, and are very outgoing, forward, and fun loving, as are their husbands.
Jill and I have a number of things in common in addition to the adventure club, including a love of dancing (can you believe that a guy with intimacy issues loves to dance -- I've never understood that myself), theater, and physical fitness. Over time we started meeting at the theater, gym, or a dance club, sometimes with some other people, and sometimes just the two of us. We always had a great time, especially when we danced Latin dances together. After knowing her for about six months, I realized that Jill turned me on like no other woman ever had. If there ever was someone that could be right for me it was Jill -- but that not only didn't seem to help my intimacy issues, it seemed to make them worse. I could hold her in a Tango, but could never even have body contact with her otherwise.
I happened to know one of Jill's female friends, Linda, through a work contact, and one morning after we attended a meeting together Linda invited me to lunch. Linda probably was Jill's most candid friend. Actually, calling Linda "candid" is like calling the Pope "Catholic." She is just plain in-your-face blunt -- she never minces words.
Once we ordered lunch Linda exemplified her trademarked frankness. "What the fuck is wrong with you, Brian? Jill is the most fantastic woman I know, sexy as hell, and obviously right for you, yet you've never even so much as given her a real kiss, let alone fucked her. But I don't think you're gay. So what the hell is up?"
Shit, how do you respond to someone that pushy? In a public place? When you're totally embarrassed and conflicted?
While blushing, I stammered out some inane rambling excuses, but Linda is not the type of person that you can bullshit. She was on me like a cowboy on a steak, slicing off pieces of my excuses and ramblings until finally I had no recourse but to storm out of the restaurant or to come clean. For whatever reason I came clean.
I told Linda that I thought that Jill was totally sexy, and really liked her, but that my clinical intimacy issues were really holding me back. In response to Linda's waterboarding-type questioning I told her all the details of my intimacy issues and limited sexual history.
I was immediately sorry that I communicated to Linda what I had. I had never opened up to anyone before, and thought that this honesty on my part could end up really biting me in the ass.
Linda's reaction didn't help. She got a faraway look in her eyes, then a smirk on her face, and then her eyes lit up. Without another word about Jill or my issues, Linda changed the subject, we finished lunch, she gave me a perfunctory hug goodbye, and she scurried off.
A couple of weeks went by. Things between Jill and I didn't change at all, so thankfully I didn't think Linda had talked to Jill about my problems. Then on a Friday Jill asked if the next day, at about noon, I could give her a ride to a kayak practice session we were planning on attending since her car was in the shop. I agreed, and arrived at her house about 11:45 Saturday morning.
When I got to her house I was surprised to see that Linda and three more of Jill's female friends were there. They all greeted me with Cheshire Cat grins, and said that Jill had told them to have me go up to her bedroom since she was ready but just cleaning some things up. I asked if one of them could go up instead, but they said that they had to leave right away; Linda emphasized that I must actually go into her room. The four of them then smugly hurried out the door without any further explanation.