Do you know about your partner's past? What have you been told? Do you believe them? Suspicious? Maybe my story will make you reflect on what you have been told."
Why do men always want to know a number? The majority of women don't keep score. It's not a game for us.
Telling my man about my past is something I have always avoided. Most guys I have dated including my husband have asked me about my past. I have always been very coy and played the sweet girl next door card. I have never admitted to being with more than five guys and always add that I regret not being with more females. Yes, it's laughable but this is what guys want to hear; need to hear.
It's not because I am ashamed, but because the male society has preconceived ideas about experienced women. Women are not respected for being promiscuous. A polite way of expressing some men's enjoyment of promiscuity is to say that they like the ladies. They are fondly referred to as "a lady's man." There is no equivalent polite expression to describe a woman who is promiscuous. She is often referred to as a slut.
How many of us women have experienced slut-shaming at some point in our lives? The term lady is used as a form of respect that is needed because of the disrespect men often display towards women.
Well, guys, I have news for you, women get propositioned all the time; and not just in bars or online; in the elevator; at the office; on the train; grocery stores; coffee shops; pretty much everywhere. The world is full of male predators. Women have their pick of men and occasionally they take the bait. Some more often than others. Even if a woman tells you about her past, believe me, she is only revealing the tip of the iceberg.
My girlfriends and I used to laugh hysterically when we told stories about the conversations we had with our boyfriends about our past. We girls know what you want to hear. I myself always play the innocent sweet girl next door; guys lap it up.
One of my good friends in college was very sweet and innocent-looking. She had sex with more men than any other girl I knew. She would have sex with two or three guys a week. We not only talked about it, but I saw it first hand. Every weekend she would meet a handful of guys and have sex with them throughout the week. Over the course of four years of college, she went through hundreds of guys. From her appearance, you would never guess she was that promiscuous. After she married, and we were reminiscing about old times, she mentioned that she told her husband that she had only slept with four guys before him. I couldn't believe it, but he believed her. She told me that's exactly what he wanted to hear. She was so right.
So you keep asking. You really want to know. How many men, how many times, how good were they? Were they as big as you, you ask with apprehension? Do I still masturbate thinking about precious sexual experiences? What was the best? And finally, how do you stack up against the competition?