Here is another episode my my series "Best Sex Ever: Women Tell All", based on interviews I have held online with real women. I ask each woman to tel me about one or two of the best sexual experiences they have had. This episode is based on a 90-minute interview I had via video call with Janet, a 34-year old European woman. Janet told me about sex during the early days of her relationship with an Italian man with whom she had a several-year-long relationship. So, this is a story about hot sex, but also is about one of the most important episodes in Janet's life. In addition to talking about sex with this man, Janet and I talked about a few other topics: how she dislikes performing oral sex, what it is like for a man to perform oral sex on a woman, Janet's memories of her first orgasm, and Janet's insecurity about how her breasts look.
Janet was a slim, very attractive woman with long blond hair, nicely made up, wearing a black dress that was low-cut in front. She was very friendly and smiled and laughed a lot.
I've written up Janet's interview as a narrative in which Janet tells her own story. Most of what I've written here are the exact words that Janet spoke in the interview, with just a few modifications to clarify the narrative. So, expect some confusion and grammatical errors - these are the words spoken in an interview by a real woman whose native language is not English. Janet's words are in plain text, and in italics I've put some things I said to Janet and descriptions of some things I saw of Janet on the video screen.
I started off the interview by reminding Janet of the specifics of what we had agreed to talk about: she was to tell me about one or two of the best sexual experiences she has had.
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Well...even if I look like I'm old enough...I didn't have so many sexual experiences, and just normal ones, ok? Maybe a few strange ones, but...not many. I am single, I'm a single mother, I have two kids, very small kids.. I'm very, very single -- I don't have time for anybody. I haven't had sex for about three years.
I remark that the men around her are missing out, because she is very attractive, and that she must really take care of herself since she appears to be in very good shape.
Yeah..with my kids. Because they are small, I told you. I'm carrying them - running around! Everyone asks me if I go to gym or something. I say, I don't need a gym!
OK, I'll tell you about sex from before I had kids. Yeah...well, I went to Italy when I was like 26. And I can tell you about my Italian boyfriend, yeah. I was living in Italy for about six years. I was working in a night club. I met this guy...he was...20 years older than me. I was 26, and he was 46. Before this, I'd been with men my age and with younger. But never with a man older than me. I was very attracted to this man. You know, I think I liked him from the first time that I saw him. I don't know why. I met him in the nightclub. He came there. I saw him, we got together.... and we fell in love. After three months I quit working and moved in with him. And we stayed together for about four years. So, this was a very significant experiences in my life - a big one.
That first night when we met, we just drank and we spoke with each other very much. I remember...and I think, yeah, we kissed. But we were in a night club, so we didn't do anything, so it was just drinking and talking. I didn't go home with him after that first evening together. I'm not that kind of type, you know. I think we made love after...two weeks, maybe.
I ask Janet to tell me about the first time she had sex with this man.
Oh my god...do you think I remember? We had sex so many times, you know. Well, I told you, that first time, we kissed, and after that we told each other everything. It was like love at first sight or something like that, you know. And after two weeks, I went to his house and...we made love, I remember. How was it like? I don't know if I can remember. I was too shy, you know, because usually I was too shy back then. Now look at me! I am not shy at all! But 10 years ago, yeah, I was shy. And, I don't know, he liked red wine, I liked red wine, he opened a bottle of wine, we sat at table, he kissed me, and we drank, and I remember, I got drunk. So after that, what happened, I have no idea!
But...he's Italian, and he was Sicilian, from Sicily, and they are very...how do you say...they like sex so much, you know. We made love in many positions, this I remember. He put me in all the kinds of positions, I have no idea how because I'd never had a man like that. So that time I we did doggy style, 69. And..we made love in the shower too, you know, which was the first time for me. You know, with him I had so many first time experiences.
I ask if she enjoyed trying new sex positions.
Well...I like so much doggy style. Yeah..it feels much deeper inside with doggy style. Maybe it's the position when it goes inside. I like to put my head down low, so my head touches the bed, and I reach back and touch his balls. When we made love like normal, with me on my back, I liked it slow. But when he went doggy, I liked it hard! I liked hard and quick and fast. Yeah, I remember this. I haven't fucked for three years! You remind me of so many things...when we finish today, I should go fuck somebody!
When we made love in the shower, he had something I could hold onto, like this (holds both arms up above her head). And he was against the wall, and he held me in his arms, and I held on like this and he, he grabbed my ass and...he fucked me. I moved and he moved me, and it felt good, you know. Just like... a little doggie...a little like, you know, in that position. I never did it again like that after that time. Only with him I did that. It's a difficult position, you know.
After that, he was fucking me every day. Every day. He wanted me when he woke up. You know when he woke up, I woke up, and his dick is every morning...like he was kissing me everywhere...he kissed my pussy......I had just woken up, and I was like, "What are you doing?" He would say to me "Go back to sleep" while he was kissing my pussy! (laughs). But I loved it. Yeah...he was great, really. I was sometimes sleeping naked so he could get to my pussy like that. Yes, he liked that. I don't like so much to sleep naked, but he liked it so much, so sometimes I did it for him. Every morning he wanted to fuck me when he woke up. But that was too much- he would kill me if he did it every morning! Some mornings, you know, I would just go away - not let him! At night time, in the night time, it was always ok! Before sleep we did it almost every day, I think. But in the morning.... So, only some days he would fuck me in the morning, and then always at night. And sometimes also even at lunchtime. Because Italian people, you know, they have a break like 2 hours break, or 3 hours break, so they all go home and have something to eat. So if I was home, and he was home, I'd make spaghetti, he'd eat. And then he'd want to fuck. And we fucked! (Big laugh). But guess what, we never fucked in the bed at lunchtime. Only on the couch.
And his cock was very big, you know. At least it was for me. It was the biggest I ever had. I can say that now. I liked it so much. Mmmm...I liked it. It was not thin. Like this...long. (Janet uses her hands to indicate the length). And, uh....big! (Uses her hands again to show how big around it was, then gives a big smile). It felt so good inside me.
I ask if she also enjoyed looking at his big cock.
I guess didn't have time to look, you know. I did 69 just two times. So I didn't look so much. He was always inside of me, so...
I remark that Janet was with this man for four years and had sex with him many times, but apparently she never really had a good look at his cock - didn't she ever spent any time playing with it or sucking it?
No. Because...I only sucked his cock because I knew he liked it, you know. But in the end, he knew I didn't like doing it, so I didn't do it any more. He licked my pussy all the time. Because he liked doing it! Not because...of course I like it too...but he liked doing it, so he wanted to do it. But I didn't want to do blow jobs,...I don't know why. It's just...I don't feel anything when I do it, you know. Am I supposed to feel something? I don't enjoy it the way I do when his cock is in my pussy. Maybe that's why, I think. I other girls who suck cock, they do it just for the pleasure of the man. The girls don't feel anything.
I tell Janet that this is true, but that her boyfriend, for example, enjoyed licking her pussy, even though that's just something he did to give her pleasure. He enjoyed doing that for her.
I told Janet that for me that's a normal part of making love, is to do something to give pleasure to your partner, even if it's something that maybe isn't pleasurable for you. You can enjoy pleasing your partner.
Yeah. I did it. All the times he wanted, I did it. For this reason, okay.
