The Story So Far (As Told By The Husband, Donald)
I had agreed, in principle, to let my half brother make my wife pregnant because I am infertile. It has been the most difficult decision of my life. It had taken over a year (after I found out I was infertile) before I broached the topic with my brother-in-law.
STAGE ONE
For technical health-related reasons having a test tube baby wasn't ideal.
I preferred using a stranger. But that meant that any child wouldn't look like me. I didn't want a Prince Harry situation where people think Laura's child was a bastard.
Laura and I employed a counsellor. Following a series of psychological tests, the counsellor said that I was "Repressed" had to "get desensitised" whereas Laura was "Well adapted to life and to the proposal."
She advised us not to try to eat the elephant whole. She advised us to take small steps to ensure that the final decision was genuine.
At that stage, the counsellor advised us NOT to approach my brother-in-law. She warned us that the marriage was at risk unless we took baby steps.
STAGE TWO
My repression may be connected to me being a dedicated Catholic. So my first baby step was to consult my liberal Catholic priest.
Deep down I felt that sex outside marriage is immoral. My priest said that extra-marital sex can moral if it was done for love.
It is immoral if done for lust or to spice up a marriage.
I examined my heart. I am a possessive husband. I wouldn't get any sexual pleasure from having another man with Laura. Basically and crucially I had my priest's permission.
Knowing that it was moral was a great step forward. I was a toddler.
STAGE THREE
I knew that sex would include Laura being nude. The counsellor got us to agree to go together to a nudist beach.
THE NUDE BEACH
I thought that the nude beach would be like H S Tuke's "Lovers of the Sun". This was my only frame of reference for a nude sin worshippers. I hoped that the nude beach would be elegant. My introduction was nothing like that.
The nude beach was inelegant and absolutely awful. There were over 100 people walking around naked and shamelessly.
Some men even walked around sporting erections. I never knew that some men can sustain erections so long.
Men and women urinated in the open air. Some didn't even bother to hide behind bushes.
SEX IN PUBLIC