If you work at a school, like I do, it is frowned upon to date men you work with. They even have little sayings, like "You don't dip your pen in the company's ink"; "You don't get your nookie where you get your cookies"; or "You don't fish off the company dock." My favorite is "You don't get your meat where you get your bread."
I grew up in Northern California and I was raised Catholic. It was not until I went to college that I began to explore my sexuality. I developed crushes on my lesbian roommate Heather and her lover. I also had several hook-ups with men who came in all shapes and sizes. My sexual exploration did not keep me from graduating from college with a Liberal Arts degree. I continued at the same school and a year later, I received my teaching credential. Shortly after that, I was hired to teach at a Southern California public elementary school.
I never broke the dating-at-your-workplace guidelines. I started teaching at a school where all the teachers were mostly women. There was a man teaching sixth grade, but he was happily married and considerably older. That made the no-dating-at-your-workplace suggestion very easy to keep.
The other reason I did not date a coworker was that I had a boyfriend, and we were living together. His name was Tyler, and we met in my third year of college. Tyler was the first man I fell in love with.
It began purely as a physical relationship because he was an amazing lover. He had tremendous stamina, and his cock was thick and long. He could fuck like no one I had before him. He was the first and only man to give me multiple orgasms from just fucking me. He was also the man who showed me different sex positions. We would be fucking with him on top, and after I came, he would turn me over, and I would be on top. He would slow me down, and I would rock on top of him until I came again. He got close to coming, and he would want to be in control again, and we would change positions. Sometimes he would be on top, sometimes doggy, or when I was completely exhausted from multiple orgasms, he would cum in my mouth.
What began as a physical relationship turned into an emotional one. We also had a lot in common, besides fucking. My roommate Heather was a nudist, and she and I would love to go to a nearby clothing-optional beach. When I told Tyler about the beach, he immediately agreed to go. One of the highlights was playing nude volleyball with some of our friends.
After dating for six months, we decided to move in together and found an apartment not too far from our college. We spent the next year and a half making love and working hard to receive our college diplomas. As we both got closer to graduating, the pressure to maintain good grades increased. I studied hard so I could get certified and prepare for my student teaching. Tyler needed to finish his senior project before he could graduate and find a job in his major. My feelings toward Tyler grew stronger and I fell in love with him.
Tyler had his shortcomings, but when you think that you are in love and the sex is amazing, it is easy to overlook a man's faults.
I was able to graduate near the top of my class, but Tyler was not able to finish his senior project, and because he did not finish, he did not graduate. After I got my degree, I received my teaching credential, and I finished my student teaching. I immediately started to look for a teaching position, and I received a job offer in Southern California.
With my encouragement, Tyler finally finished his senior project, and he also graduated, but he still had no job offers. He was sure that he would find a job in Southern California, and he convinced me to share an apartment in Southern California. We found a place not too far from the beach, packed our stuff, and moved down south.
The one-bedroom apartment we found was small, but we made it work. During the first couple of months, our sex life was still amazing, but his shortcomings became more apparent. It also became obvious that he lacked the ambition to find a job. That led to our first huge argument. More arguments followed, and the love I thought I had for him diminished. I wanted to tell him to move out, but I was just too weak to do it. So, instead, we continued to argue.
On a typical weekday, I would come home after a full day of teaching, and Tyler would be in our living room, sitting in front of his computer. He would be wearing boxer shorts and nothing else. Most of the time, I did not want to know what he was up to, so I ignored him. There were times, however, when I could not ignore what he was doing.
"Watching porn on your computer again?"
He never denied it. "I am just watching it until you get home. I wanted to be hard for you."
That line had not worked for a long time. "I don't need you to be hard for me. I need you to get a job to help me pay the rent."
That was when he would get pissed. "While you are at work, I do plenty around the apartment. I'm the one who picks up all the shit you leave lying around."
"How long does that take? What the hell do you do the rest of the time?"
Our arguments got more intense, and the sex was no longer amazing. The sex wasn't even frequent. In March 2020, the COVID lockdown began, and that changed everything. I was forced to teach via Zoom from our little apartment and I knew there was no way I could do that with Tyler hanging around. That gave me the strength to kick him out. I thought he would put up a fight, but he also knew it was over, and a week later he moved out.
The period after my breakup was emotionally difficult. It was easy for me to use the COVID lockdown as a reason for not dating, but the reality was that for almost one year, I just stayed in my apartment. I spent my weekdays teaching classes via Zoom. When I got hungry, my fast food and groceries were delivered and left at my door. The only time I left my apartment was to take walks at a nearby beach. The only sex I had was with my brand-new toy that I had bought online and was delivered by the UPS driver who I spied on through my closed curtains.
When the following school year began, the lockdown rules were loosened, and we were allowed to return to our classrooms. I was more than ready to leave my apartment and get on with my life. A month before school started, I attended my first in-person staff meeting in over a year. At the meeting, I found out there were going to be lots of changes. Most had to do with safety and protocol issues, but there were also personnel changes. The most important one for me was that the sixth-grade teacher had retired. We were told the new teacher would start the following week. I was hoping that his replacement was close to my age and single.
The first time I met the new sixth grade teacher was a few days before school started. This was the time when teachers came in to set up their classrooms for the coming year. I had my back to the open door, busy stacking books, when I heard his voice for the first time.
"My name is Michael. I'm the new sixth grade teacher," a male voice announced.
I was startled by the unknown voice because I thought I was alone. I turned quickly and almost dropped the books I was holding.
"Sorry, I didn't mean to alarm you. My classroom is across the hall from yours," he continued.
Standing about six feet tall with broad shoulders, he was casually dressed, wearing jeans and a long-sleeved dress shirt. And yes, he was close to my age. Luckily, just like me, he wasn't wearing a mask and what I noticed most was a smile that expressed confidence without being cocky.
I smiled back at him. "I am Ashley. I teach fifth grade."