I woke up with a headache and grumpy. Why was I grumpy? What the hell happened last night. We'd been drinking, we were having fun with some friends. Oh that's right somebody made a joke about blow jobs and I commented about how I didn't know what that was anymore. She got very upset over this comment. My wife feels jokes about marriage stereotypes are not funny. Well I don't find it funny that there are probably celibate nuns that put out more than her.
I looked over at her still sleeping, I felt torn. Part of me wanted to apologise. Part of me
wanted to keep arguing. Sex was a sore subject for me. The joke had been a cheap shot, but the argument was a long time coming.
The funny thing about arguing with my wife is even if you feel you've won, you probably still lost. Despite this, I loved her more then anything. She was smart, determined, beautiful. She has a smile that lights up a room, and one of those laughs that is so genuine you can't helping being happy when you hear it. I don't like arguing with her, I don't like seeing her upset. I just want her to be happy, which is why I try my darndest to make her happy all the time.
Which is why I am so unhappy about our lack of a sex life. Yes we have sex, but on average once a month. She feels that's plenty. I feel it's one step above a sexless marriage.
Anyway the argument went for a while until I told her our relationship was unbalanced and I was tired of giving up everything but still giving her everything. She didn't like that, and for good reason, it was hyperbolic and inaccurate, but it made my point. The balance of intimacy in our relationship was very skewed toward her.
The day went by and we barely spoke. She was to mad at me, and I was holding my ground for once. The next day went through a similar vein though we were a little more cordial, that night she kissed me good night at least. On the third day things seemed to have cooled off. I woke up to her making breakfast smoothies. Pineapple and other fruits. Not my favorite thing in the world but she and the kids love them. We normally don't make a big breakfast for everyone so this was very nice.
Later for lunch I offered to cook as a thank you. I made burgers and she stepped in to cut up fresh fruit. Berries pineapple melon etc. It was delightful.