This is a story about myself, Mark and my second wife Jeanie. We are both 46 and on our second marriage. Being the second time around we both spent about 1 year dating before deciding on a 2nd marriage. Things that were lacking our 1st time around, we did not want to continue with the 2nd. We both had good careers, were each financially independent, kids were grown and out on their own, so none of these usual issues were standing in the way. We also were both pretty fit and active, so we had that in common also.
After dating about six months and enjoying each other sexually I thought it was time for us to discuss our fantasies, kinks, and history. Again, with both being married before, discussing these things were not a difficult chore. It turned out we were both open to have others partake in our adventures. She was open to introduce a male but not a female, and coincidently, I was wanting that too. I tried for many years to get my 1st wife to go down this road but she never would. She always thought I wanted to be with another woman, so this was a way to get what I really wanted. 10 years of trying to convince her never worked. We split up for other reasons- now was my chance to try it!
Jeanie confided in me that she did play with other males during her 1st marriage. At 1st there were a few 3 some's with her husband and the other guy both having sex with her. Jeanie said after about 3 of these they were not working for her. She told her husband if he wanted to continue she'd have to direct the action so to speak- she wanted it more structured. Two guys pawing all over her was too much and she could not concentrate to enjoy herself and get off.
Her husband agreed and over the next few encounters Jeanie was having fun. She would plan out a scenario and let her husband and the other guy know the parameters. If they all agreed they would go forward. This setup worked well for Jeanie. Depending on the other guy sometimes she would be with just him while her husband watched, sometimes the other way around, and sometimes both at the same time but with specific direction so she could cum. The way that worked the best for her was getting fucked doggie while sucking the other guy while on his back. This gave her the control to concentrate on cumming, while tending to the other guys cock.
I told Jeanie I was onboard with this and would love to try it out sometime. She seemed excited to get back into this arrangement. She then told me that over the 5 year period her and her 1st husband played, she was able to train him to be more submissive and push his boundaries.
"Mark," Jeanie asks, "would you be interested in having your boundaries pushed and tested or are you just hoping for jerk off material when your alone?"
Wow! That came out of left field but was kinda hot I must admit. "No. not at all Jeanie. I would be excited to make this a journey as opposed to a one-time thing."
"Excellent Mark. I am happy to hear that. I very much enjoyed the 5 years with my 1st husband playing like this and was very surprised how much I pushed his boundaries. He ended up doing things he was dead set against and did things he never even considered. I can be quite persuasive in the heat of passion."
Hmmm. What did she get him to do? I decided to just leave the conversation there. Did not want to ask her what he ended up doing- partly to prevent me from getting turned off and the whole thing ending before it started, and partly for the unknown.
We continued this conversation a week later. Jeanie suggested we each make 2 lists- one with things we want to do, and one with items we were not willing to do. Of course, Jeanie reminded me that although I would be listing items I was not interested in doing, a variation of them might come up during the pushing of boundaries I agreed too. She also mentioned we would have a "block" word- a word to use that if a suggestion comes up and either of us were not ready for it we say the word and then we can move on without killing the mood. She says the would be a generic word or phrase as to not alert our 3rd to what is going on.
So we put our lists together and shared. We would have to agree to each other's lists, or the fantasy would not work.
Jeanie's do's with our 3rd: kissing, blow jobs (no condom), intercourse (condoms, unless he has test results or there is a comfort level after multiple meetings), receiving oral, receiving rimming, give spankings, cum on body, cum in pussy (only with condom), maybe cum in mouth.
Jeanie's don'ts: no fantasy play involving kids or animals, no pee or poop play, no blood, she won't be tied up, no rimming (giving), receive spanking, no double penetration, no anal (maybe on occasion).
Mark's do: sharing Jeanie with another man, kissing after blowjob, eating pussy after Jeanie fucked with condom, share blowjob with Jeanie, getting fucked with condom.
