Chapter 1: Nailah Overton
The buzzer from the dryer went off, signaling to Nailah that her final load of laundry was done. She made her way to the laundry room, picking up stray toys along the way that had been left by her little ones. Order and cleanliness were imperative in a household of five so it was a constant effort to keep things where they belonged. As she pulled each item from the dryer, she meticulously folded it to be put away immediately. Laundry was an almost daily chore in their household and she refused to let it get away from her so she stayed on top of it. She would have asked her husband for help, help that he normally would have offered without her even having to ask, but he was studying for his real estate license exam. He needed peace and quiet and with three children, all below the age of seven, that was no easy feat.
If ever there was a couple supportive of one another, it was Nailah and Roderick Overton. For the last few weeks, they had worked out a schedule. Nailah would pick up the kids from day care after work and then head to the park, miniature golf, anywhere she could to stay out of the house. Normally, when Roderick got off from his job, he would pick up the kids and at least have dinner started by the time Nailah got home at 6:00 if not on the table already. Now, the minute he walked in the door till the time his eyes closed, he was studying. With the children fed, bathed, teeth brushed, stories read, and safely tucked away in bed, it was Nailah's time to pursue her passion.
Peeking in on her hubby, Nailah kissed him on the cheek, rubbed his shoulders for a few minutes, and made her way to her studio. Well, studio was really a stretch. Let's just call it what it is. A garage. She had to share it with her car and Rod's tools and bikes for the kids. But, Rod had done a great job of transforming his side of the garage into an artist's dream, complete with lighting that mimicked real sunlight. He even parked his car a block away and walked the rest of the way home, even in the rain, to give her space.
Nailah was an artist, an amazing artist in fact. She worked in several mediums but painting was her favorite. She wanted nothing more than to quit her nine to five and paint all day, every day. Roderick wanted nothing more than for her to quit her job and paint all day as well in a huge loft with real sunlight. He loved his wife and he supported her dreams. He knew it was not a question of IF she would become a famous artist one day, it was just a matter of when her big break would come. If he had his way, his wife would do nothing but stay at home and raise the kids and paint to her heart's content. Life rarely goes the way we want it to however.
Newly married, Rod and Nailah had dreams of becoming successful in their chosen careers. The reality of a very racist world came crashing down on them when Roderick got a job in California and they moved all the way across the country from their native South Carolina only to be devastated because the old boy network refused to admit a Black man into the inner circles. He was fired one day before his six month probation was up and he suffered a crushing blow to his self-esteem and mild depression for six months after that.
Nailah suffered from something different, something she referred to as slave mentality. She was self-aware enough to identify her blockages but she hadn't yet been able to slay that particular dragon. Her issue was, as she defined it, this nagging, ever-present tiny, little voice in her head that told her that she wasn't good enough, that she had to be perfect in order to be successful, that no matter how hard she worked, she would never amount to anything. It was like there was a heavy, weighted chain around her self-esteem that kept her from soaring like an eagle. African American artists were particularly susceptible to this particular ailment because all of Black society, and their second cousins and their neighbors too, make sure to negate the life of an artist and demean and degrade anyone who doesn't want to pick corporate cotton and conform to the capitalist ideal for a living.
So, Roderick took the first job he could get because he wanted to have some form of money coming in, he wanted to provide something for the family even though with the job he took he was tragically underemployed. And even though she had just started to sell a few paintings here and there, Nailah took a job because she lacked the confidence and support system white artists tend to have to just rely on their art for survival. In the meantime, every two years, the babies kept coming until they were 8 years into a wonderful marriage and trapped in dead-end jobs they both hated.
Rod had always been a great people-person but working retail in a department store with the measly salary plus commission that they offered was not enough to save up to buy a house, save for college for three dangerously bright children, or even go on a much needed family vacation. Retail has a way of sucking you in: you become accustomed to the insane hours, the ridiculous demands from rude customers, the exploitation from managers who expect miracles, and the look of disgust other employers give you when you go to apply for another job and they see your resume and your retail employment background.
It was particularly painful for Roderick because after he lost his dream job, he was too shattered to pursue a career in his chosen field for quite some time. Nailah identified it as his own brand of slave mentality. Roderick was, by most standards, a genius but he was so used to a society devaluing him as a Black man, he accepted the lane he was forced into and didn't try to change. Nailah didn't judge him for it, she didn't ridicule or shame him for not bringing in a six figure salary. She understood that there were centuries of oppression that went into the creation of the unfair system that plagued them and the coping mechanisms Black people came up with to push down the pain.
With an uncanny ability to communicate with people, put them at ease, and to explain things in a way that made people not even realize that they were being sold something, there was little doubt that he was the best at what he did: sell very rich customers overpriced clothing that they didn't need. One day, Roderick was helping a customer and he ended up selling him three suits, a leather coat, several pairs of shoes, and an Italian silk tie when all he came in for was a tie. He was a producer for HGTV and he said, "Man, you could sell ice to an Eskimo." It was not a compliment Rod was unaccustomed to hearing in his line of work, he was always the top salesperson. "With your personality and charm, and your looks, man, you could be selling million dollar homes," and that planted the seed that led him into pursuing a new career path.
