My sexual mindset has evolved in fits and starts - one day realizing that something that held no interest for me (or that I actively disliked) has bounced-around my subconscious long enough that some initial hang-up has vanished and I realize "good lord now *this* turns me on too?!" As a public service: any guy who has not experimented with prostate orgasms you are really missing out.
But I digress.
Sexually, I tend to be more dominant - but I have discovered a taste for occasionally giving-up control. In that vein, I shared a tale called Yes Mistress that combined elements of my exhibitionist nature and the enjoyment to be found in relinquishing control.
A concept I initially dismissed (due mostly to, um...phrasing) was ruined orgasms. My initial impression was that they were connected to chastity/cock-cages. While I can logically understand the appeal of the latter it doesn't resonate for me (though check back in a few years I suppose...).
Later, I ran across the idea again, when I discovered ruined orgasm videos online. This time I decided to head to a search engine. Upon reading that I could cum multiple orgasms, all while maintaining an erection, I was sold. I'd done something like this instinctively by masturbating to the edge, stopping/holding-my-breath while a slow river of cum gushed forth, then stroking to a "real" orgasm. Cock Hero (and similar) challenge videos were how I began learning first-hand about the joy of a little self-tease/torture. Don't get me wrong - some days you just need to jerk-off and get on with your day. But these vids taught me the joy of 40+ minutes of edging and the thunderous orgasm that would eventually result.
Taking it up a notch, Godiva snuggled in beside me one night and proved how playing with a partner pushes the game to new levels of difficulty/pleasure. Taking it further, during some of our nekkid+high porn days, Godiva would settle into the role of "my favorite fuck doll." With my continued erection allowing me to fuck her over-and-over she also gained an appreciation for a day of ruins. Such fuckfests would last until I went one thrust too many...or my fuckdoll malfunctioned, locked her heels behind me, and milked me for every ounce of cum, instead of letting my cock slide free while I caught a breath.
Then we had a nekkid+porn day where she turned it up to eleven.
It started as innocently as can be expected, given that we had just settled onto the towel-draped leather sofa and launched our porn library. The first clip we watched was the bestest type of porn - homemade. It was our second ménage with our delicious friend Lola. As the clip progressed on the TV our hands were roaming while we reminisced and got more turned-on. When it ended I wanted to continue this vibe and flipped to another homemade "art clip". It was a picture-in-picture of me stroking to The Ultimate Edging & Ruin Challenge by XFah. The conclusion was me "losing" by having a full orgasm before the game permitted.
Godiva was lying on her side, head on my thigh, brushing my cock with her magic fingers. She asked "have you ever made it through all six ruins?" "No way - I sometimes make the third ruin, but tend to just keep stroking and explode for real. If I can get two it's a fun distraction and it means I'll pass out quickly when I head to bed."
Still stroking she asked "do you think you could do it? All six?" I was skeptical. "It would be awesome, but I can't pretend I've ever come close - three is the furthest I've gone."
