In my early 20's I dated a guy named Terry. He was a nice enough guy, very respectful and polite. He was my age and not the typical bad guy type that for some reason I seemed to attract or was it I was attracted to? I began dating him and soon realized he was on the more serious side. Honestly, I didn't expect that he could hold my attention for more that a couple of dates.
After somewhat of a wild start to my sexual journey I reached a point of self-respect and I had established a few ground rules for myself that I tried to follow. The first rule being that I tried not having sex on the first date! Well, I tried anyway...lol. If I managed to get by that crucial rule I had made up a few more hypothetical rules.
First dates were limited to heavy kissing only. Second dates limited to touching, exploring. I would allow my date to touch my breasts and I would go no further than rubbing his groin thru his pants. Third dates maybe a hand job. Fourth dates possibly a blowjob and if we made it the fifth date there were no limits. I thought these were reasonable limits for semi-nice girls, which I considered myself as being.
I remember telling several dates these rules but honestly I don't ever recall a time when I was able to stick to them, except with Terry.
My first date with Terry ended with us just kissing and making out in his car. It was all pretty tame and controlled overall. He was polite and seemed to respect the limits and restrictions I was trying to follow.
After our second date we again began to make out in his car. As things started to heat up with Terry I reached into his pants to do an assessment of his manhood. I liked what I felt as it appeared to be a good size and worthy of a third date. Never being the patient type, I unzipped his pants and pulled out his cock. Yes, I know I broke my second date rule.
As I began to play with my new toy Terry stopped me and said he had something important to tell me. Really...I'm stroking your cock, and you want to stop and talk. This was first for me.
He sheepishly told me he was a virgin! What! Really! He now had my attention. I wasn't sure if I believed him. I thought maybe he was playing games to entice me into having sex with him. He was a good-looking guy but a bit on the shy side so maybe I could see it. I guess I must have overreacted as he immediately went limp. I apologized and that was pretty much the end of the date.
I wasn't sure what to make of it. Is this good or bad? Should I go on a third date or run?
The next day I called my friend Jenny. She always had answers. I told her everything and wanted her take on the situation. Not to be mean but we did have a good laugh over it. Jenny had never been with a virgin before either. We both pondered over it and the more we discussed it the more intrigued we both became. We jokingly came up with the term "Virgin Boy."
Jenny pointed out that guys think about sex hundreds of times a day. So if I were his first, he would probably think of me every day for the rest of his life. Wow what an emotionally powerful thought that was.
Imagine being his very first, the first girl he has sex with. You will always be remembered as "The One." The one he lost his virginity to. You will always be special to him. You will forever be engraved in his memory. Even when he gets married; when he is 40 and is mindlessly daydreaming on his drive to work; when he gets old and reminisces; it will always be you that he thinks of when he thinks of his very first time.
The more we talked about it the more we realized what a great opportunity this was. I think the thought of taking his virginity was turning us both on. By the end of the evening with Jenny, it was decided I would be his first. But we also agreed that it had to be special, not just a quick hump in the car. This was becoming a huge responsibility for me. I had to do it right. It had to be extra special. I felt an obligation to make it special.
Jenny was dying to meet Terry so when he called for a third date I told him my friend Jenny would be joining us. We all met at a bar and Jenny loved him. She gave me her approval but also had a suggestion. How about for his first time he has a threesome with both of us? How special and memorable would that be! I had threesomes with Jenny before during vacations so it wasn't out of the question. I told her I would have to think about it. I did have concerns, though.
A threesome sounded like a great idea but I knew that Terry would end up remembering Jenny and not me. Jenny was a bombshell. She was gorgeous and outgoing. Guys were drawn to her like a magnet, that's one of the reasons I loved hanging around with Jenny. She could be overbearing also. Sure Terry would love to have sex with Jenny but what about me? What about me being "the one"?
As the weeks went on, I was doing my best to refrain from sex with Terry. He was a cute and nice but really he wasn't anything special, he was too serious for me. But Terry was a virgin and this made him special to me. Taking his virginity was all I could think of. If he wasn't a virgin I'm sure there wouldn't have been a third date. He was in my head or was it his virginity that was in my head. I was determined to take his virginity.