I actually met Wino just before PhD and I were officially separated. Meeting and being attracted to him is what actually prompted me to tell PhD I wanted to see other people, basically since I knew in my gut he was cheating on me, but wouldn't admit it.
6', 29 (now 31...now 37 and married!), born in Kansas to a privileged family, went to school for film but ended up consulting in Chicago and then selling high end wine for a winery his parents bought in to, plenty of wine, 420 and immaturity, thin, big nose, cute mole on his face, ridiculously wide smile, goofy dance moves, perfectly groomed dark hairy chest that makes me want to curl up on it and touch it for days.
He was the first guy I slept with after 16 years of monogamy.
I met him at the dive bar in town. He was well dressed in a white button-down shirt and dark jeans. He looked like the typical Napa tourist.
That night a culinary classmate and I had recently arrived there after dinner at a restaurant around the corner. It was Thursday night and we had no class the next morning, so it was already the weekend. I had enough to drink at the restaurant that I don't remember how Wino and his older, Iranian companion struck up the conversation with us.
Early on, the Iranian turned to her and made a wild guess saying she was 23 with a long-distance boyfriend. Pretty spot on since she was 24 and had a long-distance boyfriend. He then turned to me and, with a strong gaze, told me I was 27 and available. I laughed and agreed. I was 38 at the time with a long-term boyfriend I was about to separate from.
He moved closer to me and whispered in my ear, "Why don't we go back to my house for a glass of wine?" I laughed out loud uncontrollably and told him there was not a chance in hell that I would go home with a stranger. He told me he didn't want to have sex with me, and I replied positively that he wasn't going to get to.