Sleeping in on a beautiful weekend morning, coffee was the logical choice to help us clear the cloudiness and cobwebs filling our heads the morning following a late night into early morning concert experience. Always fun enjoying live music, but it was becoming ever more difficult to recover from the partying included as part of the fun package. Now it nearly guaranteed that the possibility of post-concert frenzied sexual adventures was virtually nil. These days the skin-to-skin fun had to be postponed until we refreshed our bodies with some sleep followed by strong coffee and breakfast.
I'm Walden and my partner's name is Jeannie. We've been together now close to 15 years. We "found" each other when we were both single for a few years following long-term, conventional relationships. I had been married for 22 years then single for around 5 years, while Jeannie had lived with her partner for a little over 8 years when that relationship was mutually ended due to incompatibilities they couldn't resolve.
When we came across one another, neither Jeannie nor myself was looking for any new or permanent relationship. We knew what we liked and knew we could find it in just enough measure to satisfy our sexual needs. Not the most exciting or stable way to scratch our sexual itches, as we both experienced our share of some much less than satisfying encounters, some of which were a bit frightening or dangerous. The scintillation of hooking up with relative strangers was tempered by the need to also guard against situations that could leave either of us exploited or hurt in some way. As much as it felt good to throw caution to the wind, that wind held the potential to begin as a sexy breeze suddenly morphing into a Category 5 hurricane. Measured caution was the key to navigating through our chosen life path.
Near misses in pursuing gratification ranging from women in relationships, women still pursued by exes, women who turned out to not be women, women with alcohol and/or drug addictions, women who were seeking revenge against all men, women who found me to be too sexual, women who were seeking father figures, women who just wanted to talk, etc. left me wanting for an answer to how to find someone with whom I was more fully compatible in a non-committed relationship. (Whew! That's one long sentence!)
I figured you could find just about anything on the internet, so I began searching for a forum that had some dialogue about how to consistently find more compatible hook-ups. I guess for many people a hook-up is supposed to be a physical thing. I had always needed more of a connection, more mind-melding to enhance the hook-up. In the back of my mind I liked the idea of always having the potential of a repeat performances, great hook-ups to be duplicated or expanded upon. So I sought out and found a forum that worked for me and lead me to Jeannie.