"Jan you are 31 and you are telling me you have never had an orgasm. What have you tried to put it right?"
"We have tried so hard. My husband is not the most adventurous but we have tried every position we can think of. I have persuaded him that it is okay for him or even me to play with my clitoris while making love. Nothing seems to work though."
"Can you orgasm when you masturbate?"
"As I said Wendy I have never had an orgasm and I do not masturbate. It just doesn't seem right given I cannot cum with John."
"Well you can stop thinking like that straight away. If masturbating is what it takes to at least get you started then you need to get on with it. What toys do you use?"
"What do you mean toys. Do you mean vibrators and things? I have never tried anything like that. I couldn't buy anything like that."
"Look you are still young don't give up on it completely. Finish your coffee and I will show you at least some of my large collection of toys. There are some that I don't think you are ready for but that still leaves plenty."
"I'm not sure I could look at your toys. Aren't they very personal?"
"If you are going to have an orgasm the most important thing is that you loosen up. Ask yourself, how important it is to you to bring you sex life to life. Don't answer too quickly think about it carefully. It is possible you will not succeed but do you really not want to try everything?"
They sat in silence until Jan finished her coffee. It was only then that Wendy realized that her friend was in tears. Wendy moved closer and pulled her friend so that her head was on her shoulder.
"I love my husband and would do almost anything to have a full sex life with him. I am desperate for myself too. A friend who I will not name told me she had a wonderful night with her lover and had three wonderful orgasms. She wasn't boosting she was just buzzing. God wouldn't I like to buzz like that."
"With that attitude I am sure we can make progress. Let's go up to the bedroom and I will show you lots of toys and see whether you want to try some. I admit that I am very sexual but I do believe that by masturbating at times it helps improve our sex life. You have to learn to love your body enough and relax enough by yourself before you can bring that into the marriage bed."
Jan completely froze when Wendy suggested that she stripped naked and lay on the bed. Wendy said that just for the record she had no lesbian experience since a fumble or two during her college days.
"If it makes you less uncomfortable I am happy to strip off. Whatever you are happier with is fine by me."