I don't know why it happens, it just does.
I have spoken to my psychiatrist about it, but he didn't really say why he thought it happened. He said something about low self-esteem and that sort of thing, but it didn't make a great deal of sense to me at the time.
The first time it happened was an accident. I am 24 now but I was pretty slow when it came to any sort of sexual activity.
I was 18 by the time I had my first oral sex. I was still living at home and so was my boyfriend at the time. He wasn't rich and neither was I. It is different in Australia, teenagers don't have cars and that sort of thing like they do in the USA when you are that age.
It seems pretty dumb now, but I use to practice oral sex on things before doing it for real.
Bananas, bottles, my fingers. I knew that I didn't want to be crap at it, I didn't want my boyfriend to go around saying that I was a lousy suck.
'Lousy suck' or a 'good suck' is how most Australian men refer to girls during their teens years.
Anyway, we were at the beach. It was as simple as that, and Dave was bugging me for ages to have sex with him.
He was 18 as well, so I guess I felt obliged to do something, but I knew there was no way I was going to have full sex at the beach. Besides, there was contraception and stuff to thing about, I just wasn't ready for full sex.
We walked hand in hand along the length of the beach. I was wearing a bikini (of course) a mauve color that would make me throw up today. Dave was wearing 'cozies' which is what we call swimming wear for men in Australia. He had an erection that I could see.
We walked to the end of the beach, and as it wasn't the hottest day there weren't many people there. Then there were the large rocks, like boulders, and if you walk around them you can't be seen by people on the beach.
So that is what we did. We walked for about 5 minutes to make sure that no one would see us.
I sat on a rock and Dave stood in front of me and took out his penis. He didn't take it over the cozies like you would imagine, but he pushed them down where his leg went.