My girlfriend and I have been together almost 5 years now. We met just after we were both divorced after marriages that lasted each about 10 years. She was 39 and I had just turned 43 years old.
We instantly connected in SO MANY ways, not the least of which being our sexual open-mindedness and adventurous spirits. There hasn't been much we wouldn't at least TRY. As we got to know each other a little better, I noticed something that, quite frankly, shocked the hell out of me!
Things that seemed rather "expected" (at least from my perspective) absolutely blew her away! Here's an example...the fact that I prioritized her wants, needs, desires, etc. was (no exaggeration!) an absolute foreign concept to her. I mean, simply planning out fun dates for us to enjoy caused her, on at least two occasions that I can recall, to (literally) dissolve into tears of joy. I was having a really hard time comprehending what was actually going on because this stuff wasn't anything more than " Bare minimum" that a boyfriend should do. I hadn't even started spoiling her like I was planning!
As time went on I learned that she had NEVER been treated anywhere close to "well" by the men from her past. She's been lied to, "used", victimized in ways I'd rather not get into, and it goes on and on.... When I finally comprehended the depths of her "reality" to that point, I made it abundantly clear that "those days" were OVER!
No longer was sex something in which she was "expected" or "obligated" to participate. From here on out, I made it very clear that if she EVER just "went along" with something, because she thought it would make me happy, even though it truly made her uncomfortable, nothing could ever hurt me more. She saw how seriously I meant that, and while I cannot adequately put into words just how excited she was to enjoy her "new reality", suffice it to say, she finally believed that "happiness" might no longer feel like an unrealistic goal.
To be perfectly honest, I was BEYOND surprised that she would even be willing to TALK to a man again, much less TRUST a man again after all she had endured. But thank God she believed she could safely trust me. she showed me SO much trust that about six months into our relationship, she shared something with me that she had never felt "safe" discussing with any former partner, due to fear of judgment and ridicule. That "something" turned out to be her deepest and darkest fantasy. Despite a, shall we say, "quite experienced" sexual history, she had never experienced a threesome before. Her specific fantasy was an MFM scenario, where she would be pleasured by two men at once. It was just over a month after disclosing this fantasy to me when I saw to it that her fantasy was fulfilled, As luck would have it, she seemed so excited to tell me that the "real thing" was more fun, more rewarding, and even more exciting than she ever imagined in her head. From then on, I was absolutely determined to make each and every fantasy of hers at least "on the table" should she ever choose to make one a reality. During a conversation about my wanting all of her dreams to come true, she asked me about MY fantasies...
As it turns out, I was never one to fantasize about particular "scenarios", be it a threesome with another woman, or whatever. At first I struggled even articulating ANY fantasies of mine, beyond my desire to fulfill HER fantasies. That was all about to change. As I learned more and more about her past, a "scenario" kept percolating in the recesses of my brain. at first, it was just a few scattered thoughts, but over time, what REALLY turned me on became clearer and clearer.
There are SO many things I cherish about our relationship, but right near the top of the list is how we both feel perfectly safe sharing whatever thoughts or feelings or desires we have, without any fear of judgment. But the scenario recently dancing around in my head just might put the "safe/no judgment zone" idea to the test.
Her "past" hardly made any sense to me. She's so beautiful, so sexy, so incredibly bright, so kind, and the list goes on and on. How could ANY former partner not appreciate or respect this absolute gem of a woman, much less ALL of them?? And that's when the thought of her being appreciated, respected, desired, and...VALUED became SUCH a turn on for me. Due to its "unconventional" theme, this one particular fantasy in my head seemed far too extreme for even me (and my open-minded approach to life), so I tried my best to ignore it, hoping it would just go away on its own. It didn't go away. Quite the opposite actually...
It grew louder and louder and louder...to where ignoring it was simply not an option. I was simply embarrassed to tell her. At the same time, I knew that NOT trusting her with my fantasy was in fact disrespecting both her and our relationship. She repeatedly told me to come to her with ANYTHING I fantasized about, so I just had to trust her, regardless of how nervous I was.... Eventually, she could just tell that I was obviously holding something back, so she "called me out" and said "whatever you're not telling me....let's go...OUT with it!"
Sooo.... out it went.
"You know how I feel about your past, particularly how you were SO unappreciated by men until we got together. Well, the idea of you experiencing the, well... let's say, the "OPPOSITE of that" really turns me on! And while I know that you only really care about how I treat you or feel about you, it matters to me that you realize that I'm not the only man that acknowledges what an absolute treasure you are! It practically kills me that you can't see what I (and so many other men!) see plain as day. So I'd like to, um....actually PROVE all of this to you."
"And how would you do that?"
"Keep in mind that I am NOT at all encouraging, pressuring, or even suggesting that you do any of this. I'm just sharing a Fantasy that I cannot seem to get out of my head, so...."
" do you think you'll actually tell me the Fantasy sometime TODAY? Or this month?" (cracking herself up seeing me so nervous )
"Right...OK then, here goes....Whether on Reddit or somewhere else, we share pics and/or short video clips of you, in all of your super sexy glory, with a detailed and explicit description of exactly what we're looking for. And what were looking for is.... um, are you hungry? Because I could definitely go for tacos or..."
"OH MY GOD JUST SAY IT!"
FINE!! So for one night only, and that fact is CRUCIAL, you uh...work as a high class escort for only one client."