The audience erupted in applause as I ended my guest lecture at a college on how businesses doom themselves by not paying enough attention to gathering intelligence about what others are doing. Needless to say I got a lot of fresh numbers after that (dirty old man that I am!) And some of them were from really cute guys. As a 6 feet 1, 85 kg, buff, 40 year old top, I have a thing for skinny bottoms.
In the chit chat and mixing after the lecture one somewhat nerdy looking guy approached me. "Hi, my name is Lee and I really enjoyed your talk." I said "I'm happy you didn't fall asleep!" To which he laughed nervously. I got a real vibe from him and he was really shy and cute. He asked for my number as he wanted to do his project on business intelligence gathering. I was happy to share my contact with him.
By the next morning I found he had followed me or send a friend request on different social media. And we were Whatsapping and then Snapchatting. Old warhorse that I am enjoy, I do enjoy the excitement of these opening moves.
The advantage of being openly gay is that all of guys who are closeted or just shy feel safe in approaching you. And this was at play between Lee and I.
I let Lee set the pace because that is in my view very important. And after nearly a month of Snapchat he told me that he was gay and that he was still a virgin. He was too shy and college tops just didn't seem to do it for him.
Now I know how people love virgin and first-time stories. But its a big responsibility to actually deflower someone and be their first-time. That is one sexual experience they will never forget. And you are going to be a point of reference for a long time. And then there is the physical dimension. Bottoming for a real guy is not like anal masturbation. The dildo doesn't have a mind of its own and you can always stop if you lose your mood. For the bottom there is a chance he might get hurt if he hasn't prepared properly.
I also understand how it is better to have a first-time experience with an older and more experienced person who's secure about their own sexuality and knows their way around. So I told Lee that if he wants to get together we can. But we will take it nice and slow and I will take him through what he needs to do to prepare.
Lee was delighted at the prospect and we agreed to meet at my place on Saturday evening.
When my doorbell rang and I opened the door I found Lee smiling. He was wearing a turquoise T with dark grey jeans funny socks and sneakers. He was really slender and I felt a twinge of excitement just saying hi to him.
He came inside and we headed to the couch. I told him I had a movie set up and some snacks and drinks so we could relax first. He asked me a lot of questions about my life and work and growing up and I was happy to talk to him in person like this. What I loved about his questions is that he asked me how I felt about different things, not what I had done. I already knew this was a super-smart college senior and he'd have a great life ahead of him for sure.
I had laid out cushions on the floor by the couch and we settled in on them and I loaded the movie. By this time he had a drink or two in him so I felt he was more confident. As we got comfortable I asked him if it was okay if I held his hand. He nodded and I gently placed my hand over his. It really felt great. I have rough hands from working out and his were smooth.