BDSM clubs are absolutely not for everybody, not even people who like BDSM. It takes something that is usually private and brings it right out in the open. The club that I have been a member of for four years allows everything short of fucking in the main hub, the giant area that most people hang out in. Every time I walk in I'm usually greeted with the sounds of somebody being spanked or whipped in the middle of the room.
I've been a Dom for several years, so there wasn't really anything left that would have surprised me. Because of that, I sometimes forget how outlandish most of these things are to other people.
One Friday night, I was looking around in the main hub and saw something that wasn't unfamiliar: a lone man sitting alone, nursing a drink and looking uncomfortable to the point of pain.
I knew the type. Sometimes a guy would get off from spanking a girl or acting dominant and think they would give the BDSM scene a try. But when they got to a club they'd get cold feet and realize that they weren't as into it as they thought.
I walked up to the man. Even when he was sitting down, I could tell he was tall, and he was pretty well built. He was drinking a beer and looking like he wanted to be somewhere else.
"Hey there," I greeted. "I don't think I've seen you before."
He jumped a little when he heard me and looked embarrassed.
"Oh...yeah, this is my first time going to a club like this."
I sat down next to him.
"I know this is a lot, but it doesn't have to be scary. I know most of the people here. They don't bite. At least not without consent."
He chuckled and grinned sheepishly.
"I'm not scared, I'm just nervous. I like what I see here, but I just don't know how to approach anybody."
"Well, you just made your first friend here." I held out my hand. "The name's Ross."
We shook. "I'm James."
I looked down at our hands next to each other, his creamy white contrasting nicely with my dark chocolate.
"I'm a regular Dom at this place. I can hook you up with a sub to play with. What are you into?"
His face turned red.
"No...that's not it..."
I furrowed my brow, then realized what he had to have meant by that.
"You're a submissive, then?"
He reddened further and nodded. He looked so embarrassed.
"I'm sorry, dude. I shouldn't have just assumed like that."
"No, it's fine. I don't blame you. Why would a guy like me want..." he trailed off.
I wanted to put my hand on his shoulder, but decided not to.
"If you don't mind me asking, what made you realize that you wanted to be a sub?"
He looked down at the bottle he was holding.
"About a year ago, I discovered that I really got off on porn and erotica about BDSM. Eventually I realized that I only ever wanted to watch things with a male submissive. I...I wanted to be them. I wanted a dominant man or woman to make me theirs."
I nodded, even though he still wasn't looking at me. Many people start their BDSM journey through porn.
"It felt...wrong, though. I'd been a lacrosse player all of high school and college and got a body to prove it. I'm taller than most men and almost all women. I couldn't find many videos or stories about subs that looked like me."
That was true as well. Submission was typically done by the women in heterosexual couples, and all male submissives I had met had small, weak statures. It was often liked to feminization, dropping what made a man masculine and releasing one's inner woman.
"I know that I'm not alone, it's just weird putting myself out there like this. I have no idea where to start."
I looked at him more closely. He really was handsome, and as a short man, I sympathized with him when it came to feeling out of place. His body may have been strong, but his body language was vulnerable and weak. I felt compassion flood me.
Suddenly he flinched, like he just realized something.
"I'm sorry, I didn't mean to ramble like that. I should stop talking your ear off and approach some people." He started to stand.
"That won't be necessary. I'll help you out."
His eyes widened. "Really?"
I nodded. "Absolutely. White boy subs are just my type." I also felt the need to snatch him up before anybody else had the chance to. For some reason, I didn't want to envision another Dominant with him. I wanted him to be mine.
He still looked surprised. "Wow...thanks!" He glanced over at all the equipment in the center of the room. "So...where do we start?"
"Slow down, boy. It's better to start small. And I don't think this is the right environment for you. How about you come to my house tomorrow night?"
"Okay, but...why not now?"
I grinned mischievously. "You need some time to prepare." I started to imagine all the possibilities, forming a plan for what to do with my new boy.
We exchanged numbers and I told him I would text him instructions later.
"Right now your first order is to go home. If you stay here much longer a few other Doms might get some funny ideas. You're mine."
I saw some excitement in his expression. "Yes, Sir."
*****
There wasn't a plan set in stone for our first scene. I would need to know more about what he was after, but I gave him the same orders I would give any sub I wanted to play with.
The first order was to totally fast from food until he came to my place. Any mouth or ass play would be easier if he was completely empty. I assured him that he would be fed afterwards.
The second order was for him to shave his face. He had a bit of stubble when I met him at the club, but I want my boys to be shaved bare. I made it clear that it was to be baby smooth from all angles on his face and neck. If I wasn't satisfied with his attempt, he would be turned away at the door.
Aside from personal preference and convenience, I used orders like this to make sure that the sub is serious. If he couldn't follow basic commands, he wasn't right for me. Also, submissives are often surprised by how good it makes them feel to obey orders, even ones about mundane things.
James arrived at my house five minutes before the scheduled time. I opened the front door and he greeted me.
"Hi, Ross."
I nodded. "Hello, James. Step closer, boy."
Even though at 32 I probably had a good six to eight years on him, it still felt a little weird calling him "boy," considering how much bigger he was than me. Still, even if he towered over my 5'7", I was determined to treat him how I would any other submissive.
He approached and I felt his face, gauging how much effort he put into shaving. He did an incredibly thorough job. I couldn't find a single hair anywhere.
"I see that you followed my order."
"Yes, Sir. I spent an hour making sure it was perfect for you."
I caressed his face. "That makes me happy. I trust that you obeyed my other command as well?"
He nodded. "I haven't eaten anything since last night. I'm emptied out, I promise."
Good. Time to be nice. I tenderly cupped his cheek and looked him in the eye.
"I'm glad you've been a good boy."
He blushed. I could tell he really liked hearing that. "Thank you."
I led him inside.
"Before we do anything, I want to make one thing perfectly clear. If at any point, for any reason or for no reason at all, you want this to stop, say 'red light' and I will halt everything without hesitation."
He nodded.