In 1994, I turned 19 years old. In the city that I lived in, there wasn't much to do for a teenager. Since I was not old enough to drink, I had to get creative. Usually our nights would consist of driving around and expanding our minds with whatever we could get our hands on.
That was also the year that I met Lance Willis. Lance was about 6 years older than me, which was convenient because he would buy me beer. He came from an upscale family in a city about two hours south of where I lived, so it's not like we hung out every day. We mostly hung out on the weekends since he had a job working at his father's car dealership.
When he would come into town, he would pick me up in his Trans Am or Mercedes and we would just drive around for hours. He stayed with a hair dresser friend of his that lived just around the corner, so it was close for both of us. We would go all around our city. The beach, the Northside, even to the Southbank of the river. We spent a lot of time together just talking about nothing. I told him about my problems with my girlfriend Karen, and he would tell me about women that he had fucked. It was a close friendship that we had kindled in just a short time.
There was one night in particular that will never leave my memory. We were in Lance's Mercedes parked on a remote part of the beach smoking a joint. We were high, laughing at stupid stuff, talking shit about women, wondering how the fuck we would get back home in our inebriated state when the conversation changed dramatically.
"Have you ever thought about how much it would hurt to get fucked in the ass?" Lance asked me.
"I never really thought about it," I replied.
I had thought about it. I had thought about it a lot. I don't know if it was the unknown sense of the act, or that during that time period - especially in the south - it was looked down upon, but I was definitely curious about what it would be like to fuck a guy. I just wasn't ready for other people to know that I had these thoughts.
Just then something occurred to me. If I had these thoughts, I wonder if everyone has these thoughts. I thought that I would shoot a warning shot across Lance's bow and see where he stood with this statement, "I think that everyone thinks about it, and I think that to some degree, everyone is a little bit gay."
I was not ready for his reply.
"I agree. Just the other day at my friend's house a guy asked me if he could suck my dick for a few minutes, so I let him," he stated.
"Did you cum?" I asked.
"Yep," He said, "Right in his mouth. It felt so good. You know guys know how to suck dick better than women because they have one."
That sounded logical, but I couldn't get over the fact that he actually let a guy suck his dick and that he was telling me about it so freely. What was his intention here? What was my intention? This conversation has just took a turn and I was getting hard just thinking about a guy blowing me. Did that make me weird? More importantly, did that make me gay?
"Wow," was the only word that I could reply with. To be honest, I didn't really know what to say.
"Have you ever had your dick sucked?" he asked me quite abruptly.
"No, I haven't," I replied, "Came close a couple of times, but I tend to have chronic foot in the mouth disease when it comes to pillow talk with women."
"Yeah, they do all that talking and it tends to mess shit up. You still have to fuck them though. I mean just for the tits and ass, you know?"
"So you get with men and women?" I asked.
"Yeah, man!" He exclaimed, exhaling smoke and handing me the joint. "You know when the mood hits you, there might not be a chick around. Plus, there's none of that foreplay shit with a guy. When they are ready to go, just drop your shit and go at it."
I hit the joint a little harder. He could see the conflict on my face. If I was being really honest with myself, this conversation was turning me on, I just couldn't get out of my own way on this. I needed some sort of explanation. I needed a label, and I think that by my demeanor, he could sense that.
"Fucking a guy doesn't make you gay, man," he said, "It just gives you options. I know you're not gay, but I do know that you are interested. I can see that right now."