Ben's Story
I got home from work around 6 on the Wednesday night of our first week living there and my darling wife Susan greeted me with the news that we had been invited to a party this coming Saturday night.
My first reaction was, "Who would invite us, nobody knows us here yet?"
You see, Susan and I had just taken the plunge and uprooted from our old hometown, left all our friends, everybody and everything that was familiar to us, and came halfway across the country to start a new life. In spite of being quite ambitious where my career is concerned, I don't think I could have made that decision on my own, that would have been so unfair to Sue ... to leave all of her lifelong friends behind just so I could further my career ambitions..
No, she was actually the motivation for all of this, right from when I told her that I had been head-hunted by a consultancy firm to fill this key position. Oh God, there's that word,
key
. It seems to be cropping up in our lives a fair bit lately, but I'm jumping ahead of myself, I best tell you our story in the sequence in which it occurred.
I am Ben - sometimes Benny, but never the Benjamin that appears on my birth certificate. Sue and I married surprisingly young - she was 22 and me, I was 23 - when you consider how most marriages these days start when the pair are in their late twenties, even early thirties. So perhaps we didn't sow as many wild oats as some other couples, but we were both pretty emphatic that we had found the right partner, and it seems to have worked out well.
We brought up 21 years married just a few days before we made this big move out west. We had a big party for our wedding anniversary that doubled as a Going Away party and it seemed like everybody we'd ever known was there. Of course, our kids were - we've got two, a pigeon pair, that's what they call it, a boy and a girl, Jeremy and Caroline. They haven't made the move with us because they had both already left home for college, stepping out into the big wide world.
So as I was saying, from the moment I got the job offer, it seems like Susan has been the one most keen for me to take it. I have to admit that I was confident that I had all the necessary qualifications but she was the one who would lose so much ... so many friends and such a big social life just for one. I mean, I'll be at work 9 or 10 hours a day, Monday to Friday, but how will she fill her time?
As I have progressively moved up the corporate ladder in recent years, my income has risen proportionately to the work responsibility and about a year ago, we jointly made the decision that Susan didn't need to work any more, she could lead a life of leisure. I wasn't envious of her, I thought she'd earned it, a nice reward for the many years she had pushed herself holding down a full-time job while maintaining our home and being the integral part of raising our two kids.
So there you have it, at 43 and 44, Susan and I (Ben) relocated to a new city, a new job for me, a nice new home in the 'burbs for both of us in a good neighbourhood but knowing virtually nobody.
"So honey, who would invite us to a party?"
"Ben, I had a visit from three women today, they were a welcome wagon, they said, offering the hand of friendship to us in our new neighbourhood."
"Oh, that's nice ... they weren't missionaries from the Mormons, were they?"
"Oh darling, you're always so suspicious. No, three lovely ladies, all from up and down our street, they said they themselves knew what it was like to move into a new area where you don't know anybody. So they've invited me to come over for coffee tomorrow morning and they also extended an invitation to some party on Saturday night."
"Is the party here in this street?"
"No, I don't think so, it is this suburb, but I think it's a few blocks away, they said we'd need to drive. I guess we could walk if you wanted to, but you're not exactly the keenest when it comes to exercise, are you?"
"No, that's fine, we'll drive. So did you tell them we'd go."
"I wouldn't be that presumptuous Ben, I wanted to ask you first."
"Oh, that's very thoughtful honey, but I think we should go, it sounds like a good chance for us to meet a few people quickly. So do you want to tell those ladies yes when you see them in the morning?"
"No, they're just guests, none of them are holding the party, they gave me a number to call."
"I hope it's ok ... them inviting us."
"What do you mean?"
"Well, some of the guests inviting us to someone else's party, someone we've never met."
"They said it would be alright, indicated that they'd checked with the party host if it was alright to invite us."
"Ok, so long as they've cleared that. How about you call in the morning and tell them we're coming."