Chapter 23
Deb
The day after her sister's birthday "party", Nancy reached out to her new friend Deb to get together for lunch. They met in a local restaurant just after the normal lunch rush had subsided and were able to find a table that gave them some degree of privacy to talk. Deb was still excited from the night before and was eager to attend the next large gathering. After a brief discussion of the previous night's events, the two women shifted their talk to more mundane matters.
They picked up where they had left off in Ann's living room and learned more about each other's personal lives. Deb and Kyle had been married for 40 years and two children; however their daughter was a drug-addict who had been in and out of trouble for several years. She had a small child, but the father was in prison and had never been in the picture. Since the mother was unable to properly care for her son, the two sets of grandparents ended up raising the young boy. He primarily stayed with his father's parents who were in their early fifties, but he stayed with Deb and her husband one or two weekends each month during the school year and for longer periods during the summer when schools were closed.
Their son was the exact opposite. He was the oldest and had always made good grades in school, eventually getting a Master's degree in college and becoming an engineer. He was very athletic, but quiet and more like his father in personality. He wasn't married yet, but had a girlfriend that he had been dating for a couple years and who Deb expected he would ask to marry him very soon.
Nancy filled Deb in on her past, including her failed first marriage and then how she met Paul in the parking lot of a large home improvement store. Deb became curious how Nancy got into swinging which led to another long tale of how her sister and brother-in-law were the ones who introduced her to it. Deb wanted to know if it had ever caused a problem between her and Paul, but Nancy replied that she knew Paul loved only her and with all of his heart. She felt the same way about him and had quickly learned to separate making love to her husband from having sex with others outside of her marriage. She also confided that she had always been the one who seemed more interested in hooking up with others and Paul seemed indifferent about whether they did or not.
Deb's eyes opened in surprise. She had always assumed that the men were more inclined to have sex with as many partners as possible, but Nancy laughed and said that she couldn't believe how many women she had met who seemed to be just as horny if not more so than their partner. That's when it struck Deb that she had always been the partner in her marriage who seemed to have the greatest libido and desire for excitement while Kyle was much more staid and conventional. After their two experiences with swinging, she wasn't sure that he was entirely comfortable with it because of "performance issues".
Nancy gave Deb an understanding look and tried to help her friend. "It's easier for us women in that regard. I know men are super-sensitive about being able to have an erection and keep it for a while, not to mention how concerned they are about cumming too early. To them, they're a failure and can't satisfy their woman if they aren't big enough or can't keep it up for a long time, but most of us don't care, especially if it's our husband. I've seen several guys who had some sort of performance issue at one point or another, but the key is letting them know that there's always something else they can do to pleasure us that doesn't involve their dick."
Deb giggled at Nancy's bluntness, but agreed with her assessment. She wanted to continue getting together with others to swing, but worried that it could create a rift between her and Kyle. Nancy opined that the concern was valid, but it was really a discussion that Deb needed to have with her husband. "You two have to be completely honest with each other and respectful of each other's feelings. If you decide to quit swinging, you can't hold it against him and by the same token, if you continue to have extramarital hook-ups, he needs to let you know as soon as he starts to feel uncomfortable to the point where he really doesn't want to do it, regardless of the reason. Neither of you can afford to hold resentments against the other for how you conduct your sex lives. I'm sure both of you hold your marriage as a higher priority than your personal desires."
Deb considered what Nancy shared and agreed completely. When they started trying to plan their get-together on the next weekend, they decided not to plan on making it a swing affair until Deb had a chance to talk things over with Kyle.
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The following weekend, Paul and Nancy drove to Deb and Kyle's home for a late afternoon visit followed by a very casual cookout dinner. Nancy filled Paul in on her discussion with Deb over lunch the week before and made sure he understood the sensitivities, involved. All that became irrelevant as soon as they arrived.
Kyle met them at the door and let them in just as Deb came rushing up from the back of the house. She gave Nancy a warm hug and whispered "Thanks for all your help" in her ear before moving over to give Paul a lingering hug as well. Paul's first clue that Deb and Kyle had resolved any potential issues came when she squeezed his butt and pulled him tightly against her body. Paul glanced over at Kyle, who had just given Nancy a brief peck on her cheek and a brief hug. Kyle didn't show any sign of reaction when he noticed his wife hanging on to Paul, but remained happy and upbeat while he gathered their jackets and put them away.
He and Deb led their new friends into their living room and when the men left to get drinks for their wives, Nancy leaned over and asked Deb in a loud whisper, "What's going on?"
Deb leaned forward and replied in a quiet, but excited voice, "I did what you suggested and it turned out I completely misjudged Kyle's feelings. He still wants to continue to go out and meet new partners together. He knows he doesn't have much sexual experience, but all the women we've met so far don't seem to care and he figures he's a quick study."