After I graduated from college, I moved back home for a short time as I started my first full-time job. My dad had left us when I was in high school, so it was just my mom and me at home.
I was dating a girl named Rebecca at the time, and we spent a lot of time at our house. We usually hung out in the basement. We had cable TV, a game system, a bathroom, and a mini-fridge down there. My mom would check on us every once in a while, even though I was an adult, but she pretty much left us alone.
Little did I know, but Rebecca and my mom had some pretty in-depth talks. They were closer than I thought. I learned this one day when my mom blindsided me with the comment, "Son, take things slow sometimes. It's not always good to be wham-bam-thank-you ma'am."
"What the hell?" I replied. "What do you mean by that?"
"I mean that women need time to rev up. They need foreplay. They need sensuality. They need kisses and cuddles. They need gentle touch."
"Why are you telling me this, mom? What's your point?"
"Rebecca shared that things were often one-sided with you. She is feeling a little left out and undervalued and wants desperately to have a deeper connection with you."
"Do you mean she doesn't like the sex? 'Cause we do it a lot! She sure sounds like she likes it."
"Are you really listening to her, son? Here let me show you what I mean - it's easier than telling you."
With that, my mom lit some scented candles, turned out the lights, and asked me to sit on the couch. She stood behind the couch and rubbed my shoulders. I closed my eyes and enjoyed her touch. "Do you like that, honey?" "Yes, it feels good." "Should I keep going?" "Please."
She stopped rubbing and said, "See? Keep rubbing. Don't be in a rush to get to the next step. Here, I'll sit down next to you, and you rub my feet until I ask you to stop." She put her feet in my lap, and I started caressing her arches and her toes. After about a minute, I stopped. She said, "I did not ask you to stop. Please keep going." I rubbed some more, and eventually my hands cramped up a little. I alternated hands, but I kept on rubbing her feet until she said "Now scratch my back."