Spending January in San Diego is not such a bad thing. The sun still shines, though not as warmly, and the fog actually lifts earlier in the mornings than it does in June. I hadn't been back to America's Finest City since 2006, when I first left home to go to college in Northern California. My old connections and friends had long left town, most moving off to Universities of their own, or adventures, jobs and real life.
San Diego has a happening young peoples' scene, with three large universities and a couple of districts almost entirely occupied by the 20-something crowd. After seeking out some playmates in the various bar ghettos of the city, prospects for a good time were looking dim judging by the over-tanned, too-hot-for-you clientele I found most everywhere. I tried searching the internet for a random hookup, but most of my inquiries were returned by 'working girls', who I had neither the interest or budget for.
I finally decided to post a personals ad myself. I felt not a little awkward about it, after all, wasn't it a sign of desperation to be whoring oneself out online? How could I possibly meet anyone worthwhile through such an anonymous meatmarket as Craigslist?
My post went up on December 30th, just in time for the late Holiday's loneliness run that precedes the somewhat morbid specter of Valentine's Day.
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New Years FWB-m4w-24
I'm a recent college grad, back in town for a few weeks after traveling and looking for someone to share my time with. I somewhat vainly consider myself to be an intellectual, and I value someone who is a competent conversationalist as well as a competent lover.
About me: I'm 6'1", blonde/blue, SWM, into cycling, reading, a big movie buff and a world traveler.
About you: Near my age (22-30), single, sexually open and looking for a casual fling this Winter season.
If you're interested in meeting up, let's try to arrange a coffee/beer get together, where we can see if we click and move from there.
-Geoff
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I'd read the usual rants and raves online about what to put in a personals ad, how to not describe your cock or demand hopelessly specific physical requirements. I wasn't too fixated on finding my ideal 'dream girl' anyways, I was just looking for fun. I hoped that signing my post would be a good show of faith and might encourage someone real to respond.
The first day I got two hits. One was a sketchily written, typo ridden proposition that just sounded like a troll. The other was from a 'dating site' that wanted me to join, for the value of 9.95/month, and find 'horny hotties in my area'.
For the next three days it was total radio silence. Not a peep in my inbox, and daily I checked the ads listings, just to see if I found anyone else to respond to.
I wasn't working in town (though I was ostensibly job hunting), and took a weekend off for a little stay-cation camping trip nearby. When I got back to internet access, there was a message waiting in my inbox.
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Re: New Years FWB
Hi Geoff,
Saw your CL ad, it was refreshing to find someone not demand 'cum hungry sluts' and 'no fatties.' I'm a 25 y/o in PB, I work two jobs, one doing bitch work in marketing and the other waiting tables. I got my degree in Communications from SDSU two years ago, so I'm a 'competent conversationalist' as you say. If you aren't busy, I'd like to take you up on that offer to meet up for a beer. I attached my picture, but its not too revealing for privacy's sake. Send me an email if interested.
Tara
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Simple, to the point, casual yet well written. And it was the only option, really. The picture was intriguing. It was of her face, but from the bridge of the nose to the top of the head, so it showed only two heavily mascara'd eyes, a pale forehead and jet black hair held back by a bandanna-patterned headband. I replied:
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Tara,
I'm definitely free, Wednesday to Friday work best for me, but I can do the weekend too. What do you say about meeting at The Living Room Cafe in PB Friday?
-Geoff
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Geoff,
I work Friday night but Thursday is my day off. The Living Room sounds good, how about 5 O'clock? I'll be wearing a pink and white polka-dot headband and fishnets.