In the mid-1980s, I was a university student in Orange County, California. I had a thing for Laurie, a cute brunette, who I'd met in a campus Christian group. There were three problems: Laurie was dating another guy, Laurie was a virgin and I'd made mention of the fact that I'd spent the night with a former girlfriend. That took me off Laurie's list of men to date as she was committed to giving her "V-card" to her future husband on their wedding night. She wanted to marry a virgin.
While I wasn't into cutting notches on the bedpost, I realized that the notion of remaining a virgin until the wedding night wasn't for me or most everyone else. I was looking for a life partner who shared my values for, loving, intimacy along the romantic path to a wedding day.
One day, Laurie walked up to me and stunned me by saying, "I have a friend that you should date. Both of you are Christians, both of you aren't virgins, you are both adults, and both of you have the same interests and values - including pre-marital sex."
I told Laurie that she was, needlessly, overly, concerned about my sex life, but she admitted that she understood where I was, sexually. "My, married, friends tell me sex is fun," she admitted.
I rolled my eyes and agreed to take, her friend, Mona, on a, casual, dinner date to see if we hit it off.