For my junior year of college I had to move to the dorm for upper classmen. This meant that I had a new roommate. His name was Max and I met him the day I moved in. He had arrived before me and had already picked a side of the room. He was mostly done unpacking and settling in as I barged in with all of my things. We chatted and got to know each other a little while I unpacked.
Max was a nice guy. We seemed to have a lot in common. We both liked sports as fans but neither of us were an athlete ourselves. We both were Science majored and would be spending a lot of time in labs. We had overlapping tastes in music and movies. With our shared interests, we talked easily for hours. No weird silences. We became good friends right away. We were comfortable with each other.
There was one difference between us though. Max was gay and I was straight. Since we were roommates, and quickly becoming friends, Max had wanted to tell me this right away. He didn't want to have an awkward conversation later down the line. He just wanted to be open and up front from the beginning. I thanked him for telling me. I joked that this was great news! We knew we would never be in competition with each other romantically. Max laughed and we resumed a more casual conversation.
I had just spent a joyless summer working full time at my seasonal landscaping job. Right at the beginning of the summer, my girlfriend of the past two years broke up with me. We had started dating towards the end of senior year in high school. We each went away to different colleges, but kept the relationship going, mostly through texts and phone calls. During school breaks we would spend as much time together as possible.
I hadn't seen her since spring break. That first day of the summer, we met up, I thought for a date, and she gave me the news. She had met someone else. It was too hard for her to maintain our relationship while going to separate schools. She said that being her first love, I would always be special to her. She hadn't wanted to do this over the phone so she waited until now to tell me in person.
I was heartbroken. I really thought I was in love with her. I buried myself in my job, taking extra shifts and working overtime. I hardly spent any time with my hometown friends and I certainly didn't try to meet any other girls. I spent the whole summer mourning the loss of the relationship. By the time I moved back to college, I was getting over the loss and was ready to date again.
Having had a girlfriend during my first two years, I hadn't dated or even flirted with anyone here at school. I was starting fresh. I found it wasn't as easy as I hoped to meet someone and make a connection. Over the course of a couple months I had managed just two dates. Neither was successful and neither resulted in a second date.
Max hadn't been seeing anyone either, though I didn't think he was trying as hard as I was. He seemed more laid back about his social life, willing take things as they came. I, on the other hand, was on a mission get back in the game and I was getting frustrated by the lack of results.
One Saturday night in November, I was on just my third date of the semester. It had been so bad that we both decided to quit the date before the evening was over. I came back to our room at around 8:00 and Max was there playing a video game we both liked. I pulled my desk chair over next to his and watched.
Max completed the level he was working on and noted, "You're back early."
I filled him in on the awful evening. "Since Sheila, I am just not connecting with anyone. I feel like I'm over her. I don't know. Maybe my expectations are too high. I'm getting frustrated with the whole situation."
Max asked, "Frustrated? Like sexually frustrated?"
I answered, "Sure, that's part of it." I hadn't been with Sheila since last Spring Break. I was in an 8 month draught.
Max said, "If you want some private time to rub one out and relieve some tension, I could leave the room for a while."
I said, "No, but thanks for the offer. After 8 months of just my own hand, I'm bored with masterbation. It's always better when it's the touch of another person."
"Hey, if you want, I could lend you a hand," Max winked at me.
We both laughed. I said, "I know you're kidding, but you wouldn't be able to help me even if I said yes. I'm not gay. I couldn't get off from another guy. I probably wouldn't even get hard, not to mention...you know."
Max replied, "I was kidding. But, you're wrong. If I tried, I would get you. I would get you and it would be better than any time you with a woman."
"What? You're crazy." We held our gaze. "Look, I am sure you have mad skills, but I would have to be attracted to guys...to you, but I'm not. I love you like a brother, but I'm just not."
Max, a debate team member in high school, argued his point. "I'm not trying to get you to do something you don't want to do. I just want you to know that the fact of the matter is guys can satisfy guys better that girls can. It's only logical. Guys have the equipment. They know what feels good. They know what they're doing. Not only are girls unfamiliar with the equipment, they are usually reluctant performers. They don't want to be there. If they were honest, most of them are little grossed out by the penis."
I thought about this. I remembered back to some of my experiences with Sheila. She was totally into traditional intercourse but anything different, like hand jobs or oral, she was timid and brief. Was Max right? Even if he was, it was irrelevant. I am not gay.
I said, "You're saying, like what? Girls don't know to not use teeth?"
"Sure, that's one example." Max continued, "They lack expertise and technique. Consider this. When you perform orally on a girl, have you felt like an expert down there? Do you know where everything is and exactly what to do to maximize her pleasure?" He paused.
I assumed the question to rhetorical. The truth was I did blunder and fumble around down there. I didn't reply, but Max saw the answer in my expression.
He went on, "You can't say I'm wrong if you've never tried it. Another guy could give you the orgasm of your life."
"I just don't see it. Technique is not enough. For the best orgasm of my life, I would need to be in to it, turned on. Guys don't arouse me. That is a big part of it."
Max said, "You are so sure of yourself. You want to make a bet?"
I got a little nervous. "What do mean?"
"I mean prove it," Max said. "The only way to know that another guy can't get you to cum is to prove it by giving him a chance, and you successfully hold off."