My sister and I were born only 13 months apart. I don't know what possessed my mother to have me so soon after Michelle, but she did. It probably added to how close the two of us were while growing up, but the first years must have been murder on Mother, and is most likely why she never had any other kids. I don't know that for sure, but Michelle and I both figure that must have been at least part of it. By the way, while most people called my sister by her first name Janet, or some nickname, I called her by her middle name for many years, and do again now.
Our parents raised us a bit differently from the way our friends, and I guess most people, were raised. When we were old enough, our parents treated us as though we knew right from wrong, and when we strayed, would sit us down and talk to us rationally. I remember once, when I was about 12, that a friend snapped me with a wet towel. Man, that hurt! I thought it would be funny to do it to my sister, who ran into her room crying. My dad sat me down and started talking to me. The conversation went something like this:
"So, Janet doesn't seem to appreciate what you did. Why did you do that?"
"Well, Bobby did it to me, and I thought it would be funny to do it to someone else."
"So, you wanted to take it out on someone else?"
"Well, no, I mean, not like that, uhm..."
"Did it hurt when Bobby did it to you?"
"Yeah, smarted like hell."
"Was it funny to you when he did it?"
"Uhm, no, I guess not."
"Mmm, but you thought it must have been funny for the person at the other end."
"Uhm, I guess. Kind of dumb, hunh?"
"Well, that's for you to decide. Do you think that Janet appreciates being treated like one of your male friends?"
"No, I guess not."
"Why is that?"
"Because she's a girl?"
"Well, that may be something to think about. What else?"
"She's my sister."
"Why does that matter?"
"Well, I should be looking out for her. Protecting her."
"Really? From what?"
"Well, I'd get pretty mad if someone else did something like that to her!"
"But it's okay for you to."
"No, I guess not. Pretty dumb, when I think about it that way."
"Hmm. So, what are you going to do now?"
"Apologize."
"Why?"
"Because what I did was wrong, and I'm sorry."
"Being sorry is a good reason. You'll have to decide for yourself the right and wrong of it. But tell me, are you going to do something like that again?"
"No way!"
"Well, then maybe you really are sorry, and I suspect that Janet would appreciate being told that."
That was the kind of upbringing we had. We were taught to respect other people, think about our actions and their consequences, and so on. I've never considered myself the brightest of people, but this kind of parenting made me think a lot more about what's important than any of the straight-A students in my school. I think the same can be said of Michelle, though I've always considered her way smarter than me.
As I said, Michelle and I were incredibly close growing up. Being close in age, we could actually do similar things, talk about common topics, and so on. While friends fought with their siblings, we rarely even had an argument. We enjoyed the same music, movies, you name it. Since I grew up fairly quickly, we were even able to get into PG movies at the same time. They would check her ID, then assume I was her boyfriend and not bother checking mine.
One other thing about Michelle; I always felt she had style. When everyone else was chasing the fad of the day, she always went her own way. She dressed well, and learned to sew when she couldn't find dresses that wouldn't look stupid in two years. When everyone else was wearing god-awful platform shoes, she was wearing low-heeled pumps that may not have been "in fashion", but always looked good. I think it made her look a little more sophisticated than the rest of the school kids. She never lost that design sense.
When Michelle hit 18, we went to a bar together a couple times, but we didn't see the thrill others saw in it. Maybe it was different with a group of friends, or we were too level-headed. I don't know for sure. But then, maybe it was because our parents raised us knowing about alcohol, so it wasn't this big "forbidden" thing that made it "cool". Once we hit 15, they would let us have wine with them during dinner on special occasions. The summer I was 16, dad would toss me a cold one as he sat down with his after we spent a hard day in the garden and mowing the lawn, or working on the car. So a bar, at least the ones near us, seemed pretty cheesy to us.
After graduation, we each moved away to different cities. The town we lived in didn't have the diversity and size for the kinds of things we each wanted to work at. I needed a big arts community if I was going to build stage sets, and Michelle was destined to be a big-time financial planner. Spokane was my stepping stone, while Boise was hers.
When I was 22, our parents died in a car crash. Michelle and I were devastated, and spent a fair bit of time during the following month consoling each other. They had left us in decent financial standing, but we would have given it all away to have our parents back. We weren't rich, but it was enough for us to each buy a house, or get a degree, that sort of thing. In respect, I put my money in the bank until I really knew what I wanted to use it for. Turns out Michelle did the same, locking it up in a ten-year investment fund that could only be touched earlier for education costs. I think we both felt bad about having the money because of where it came from, but we also loved our parents more for knowing they sacrificed some luxuries when they were alive to make sure we would be secure if the unthinkable happened. We both went through lots of emotional turmoil during this time.
It was two years later that Michelle got married. I flew to Boise for the wedding, and gave the bride away. This was probably the first time since we left home that I saw Michelle as anything but my sister. Wow, did she look good! By this time, she was 5'7", probably 34-30-35, definitely a "D" cup, and dressed like a fox. Her husband was one lucky guy. I actually felt jealous that my sister was marrying some guy I hardly knew.